Comments on: How do I tell my wife that she needs to exercise and lose weight?

By: Michael M

Michael M — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Don’t she will get real mad.

By: Your Conscience

Your Conscience — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Make it something you can do together.
Do the grocery shopping together, cook together, go for a hike or a swim. Take a walk after dinner.
You don’t have to be up front about it if she is really sensitive. If you keep it up, she’ll feel better and look better and that will motivate her to do it on her own.

By: Vicky

Vicky — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

hint her. put healthy foods in the house and throw away all the things tht r pure fat or have so many calories. but, if you love your wife, then leave her the way she is if you truly love her.
thanks hope my advice helped!

(please put as best answer… i really need the points

By: Old Mister Happy

Old Mister Happy — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

If she’s not listening to her doctor about this, why would she listen to you, the lowly husband? If she isn’t seeing a doctor, then she should (and perhaps you could talk to him privately, as the spouse with your concerns). If she won’t take care of herself now, will she during the pregnancy?

By: theterrorofdeath

theterrorofdeath — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Sometimes,you just need to be blunt about it and let her know that if you two are to start a family,she needs to take her health/weight into consideration,as an ailing,or overweight body,can cause health complications for the potentially unborn,and her. It can also cause some consternation to the doctors during any sort of procedure they may need to do to her if that situation occurs. Trying to sugar coat the truth pisses women off even more than being honest(or using kid-gloves,as it were),yet they still ignore it when confronted,even in the face of strong evidence in regards to the issue at hand(Yes women,it is true :3)Then again,you two may need to re-asses your priorities.

By: Jake No Chat

Jake No Chat — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Not an easy one. First, you got to say that you love her no matter what. Second, you should express your concern about her health as the only reason you are saying something. My wife of 30 years had gained a bit of weight after raising our kids. I did tell her I loved her for her, and I was concerned about her health and the possible onset of adult diabetes. She did not like it and anything I said was not helpful until she decided that losing weight was important for her. She lost 70 pounds in the last year and now feels great (no pun intended). Good luck to you both.

By: theninjette

theninjette — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Do it with her. Clear out the fridge/cupboard of all crap food, and fill the house with only sensible options. Buy a gym membership for the two of you. When she gets home, give her some flowers and say, "I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to make a family with the woman I love – let’s get healthy together so we can start off on the right foot!"

Be cheery, positive and encouraging – and don’t criticize.

By: mcq316

mcq316 — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

You can’t just be HONEST with you wife? I swear, I must not understand marriage at all.

By: kelly

kelly — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Get your doctor to talk to her about it. If it truly is an issue as far as you all getting pregnant it will be much more convincing coming from a professional.

You’re going to have to make it a lifestyle change for the both of you. Losing weight is so much easier if you have someone to do it with. You can do physical things together. My boyfriend and I like to go on walks, play sports in the park with our friends, go to the lake and go swimming, etc. If you make it fun instead of a drudgery she will think you’re being creative and resourceful instead of a jerk.

You should also go online and look for some activities that she could join. If you go on Craigs List there are always postings for gym groups, running groups, adult kickball teams, that kind of thing. It would be a good way for you all to meet people in a new city as well.

By: gramma rocks

gramma rocks — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

You don’t. You stress your concern for her carrying your child and how you want her to be as comfortable as possible during that time, and throughout delivery, and address any health concerns with your doctor.

Also, you make it so it’s an "US" thing, so you are both going to work on your health for the sake of the baby you are trying to conceive. Find healthy recipes together, develop an exercise program together.

Combat the snack problem by keeping only "healthy" snacks in the house, go on walks or bike rides together in the evening and on weekends

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