Comments on: Girls, what would u do if u no longer were attracted 2 ur husband & he refuses to lose weight?

By: DC61

DC61 — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Firstly I would make sure I wasn't any of the things I was accusing my husband of being. Love is more than on the surface and we do marry for "better or worse" etc. If you don't believe in divorce or adultery, surely you believe in your marriage vows.

By: ~nicole~

~nicole~ — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Stop being so shallow. You are probably making him not want to lose weight by nagging him to death. And how sad that you are only interested in his looks. I bet he is a great person with a great personality and deserves better than to be treated like a slob by his own wife.

By: wildflower c

wildflower c — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Although you should love him no matter what, if his weight is causing a problem and he won't address it, try doing what you can and see if it makes a difference.. Can you cook healthier meals? Do you buy the groceries? (Could you buy healthy snacks and foods?) Can you sweet talk him into a walk at night holding hands? Or going swimming on the weekends? Or a bike ride? I would also talk very straight with him if he won't consider anything to help.. just tell him how much you love him and want him to be there with you for a long time.

By: Eve

Eve — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Why don't you help him lose weight?

Where have you been while he has slowly been adding on the poundage?

It's a little too late to take notice now. Maybe it's something he can't control or cant help.

I suggest you both join a gym and go for walks and bike rides on a daily basis; if you really care you will help him get back into shape.

By: advicemex

advicemex — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

What about your weight and appearance? If you haven't done so already maybe you should set the example. Start working out and dressing sexier then maybe you can give him motivation. Maybe he's depressed? I agree that physical attraction is PART of a healthy relationship.

By: cisco_cantu

cisco_cantu — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Sounds like you never really were in love with your husband if the weight is that big of an issue, unless he's like ballooned 100 lbs or something.

Quit telling him to lose weight and ask him to go walking with you cook healthier foods. Ask yourself, how have I contributed to his weight gain?

Also, what makes you such a prize that you can pass judgement like this. Do you still weight roughly the same you did when you got married. If so, then you have a valid point. If not, then consider getting healthy together.

By: Leonard Lush

Leonard Lush — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Get fatty on the treadmill…

By: tinktink20

tinktink20 — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I think this happens a lot in marriages. You're supposed to marry your best friend, so I don't think divorce or adultery is the answer (though it never really is). Just talk with him and see if you can come to an agreement. If he doesn't want to lose weight, you can't make him. Just be happy you have your best friend by your side….I'm sure things will change eventually when he's not getting any!

By: verdugo

verdugo — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Verdugo: to begin with I feel that this problem exist mostly against women. If you have an overweight man, that's more of a problem. If you have a man that's not willing to go the gym and excersize thats even more of a problem. I can imgine his sex drive it must be all dead. You on the other hand, it seems that you don't have that problem. You sound like a woman that stays on shape and is looking healthy. I feel that you should leave his lazy butt, find yourself someone with same interest in health, and looking good. I think you should look for some one at the gym if that is some one that you are looking for.

By: Mrs. Foster!!!

Mrs. Foster!!! — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Have you tried to lose weight with him? Maybe he just needs some motivation. I would suggest to him that you take a walk around the block. Do that a few times a week for a few weeks and then maybe take a ride on bikes around the neighborhood. Then maybe suggest a longer walk or run. This way you are spending time together and being active at the same time. I wouldn't tell him that you want to do these things for him to lose weight though, I would just suggest it to get out of the house and spend some time together.